How to Choose the Best Hookup App When You don’t Want a Relationship Akshita Singhvi November 19, 2020 Relationship 1869 These days you can find just about anything on the Internet, including hookups. With a host of apps to choose from, which one you use really depends on you and exactly what you’re seeking. Perhaps the most difficult part is picking an app to put your time into. Since it’s a subjective choice, I’m going to run through some quick tips to help you decide for yourself. By the time you’re done with this article, the process will seem that much easier. The sheer volume of hookup apps might feel overwhelming, but we’re about to help you cut that number way down. What you should be looking for is about two to three apps that seem like the best fit for you. That’s a nice, manageable number that lets you experiment. Eventually, you’ll find yourself returning to one app more than the other(s). That app is the one to focus on since you’re clearly getting something out of it. Also, before downloading some apps or choosing websites you may check out the best hookups sites. Choosing a Hookup App that Works For You I’m going to cover five quick tips here that’ll point you in the right direction and go great with our previous tips on how to boost your dating with confidence. Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to explore new things. The whole concept of online dating and hookups is meant to be filled with excitement and intrigue. Don’t take the fun out of it all by over-analyzing every step of the way. Read through these tips, find the app that works best for you and put yourself out there! Determine Exactly What You’re Looking For The term “hookup” can mean so many different things. Before you can hope to find the right hookup you first need to figure out what that means for you. Thankfully the days of slut-shaming are a thing of the past. If you’re just looking for a one night stand that’s perfectly okay. Maybe you’re open to a friends-with-benefits situation or perhaps even joining a couple in the bedroom. Whatever you determine, you’re going to find it through a hookup app just fine. Better yet, once you understand exactly what you’re seeking you can be more targeted in your approach. Honesty goes a long way in most areas of life and I’m a major advocate for it in dating. If you’re just looking for casual encounters don’t be afraid to say so right there in your bio. So long as you keep it classy, the only people you’re turning away are the non-suitors (which is a good thing). Hookups are fun and we’ve all done it. This isn’t something you need to be ashamed of! Read Expert Reviews of the Best Apps This tip is so obvious that most of us tend to overlook it. Why spend the time trialing several apps when you can just read an overview of the best hookup apps this year in a few minutes? These types of reviews will give you a rundown on the pros and cons to watch out for with each option. These reviews are also written by people who have actually put in the time and effort to use the apps for a few weeks. After that, it’s up to you to decide which of those attributes matter the most. Some reviews might talk about elements that you consider trivial. Maybe you don’t care about the color scheme, you just want to know about functionality. Either way, what you’ll end up with is a handful of apps that actually interest you. They’ve done the legwork and tried a wide range, so you know the apps that made it to their list are worth it. Better yet, now that you know what you’re looking for, try to find a review that talks about that in particular. Maybe you’ve decided that you’d like to try finding a friend with benefits. If so, you’ll find countless reviews that’ll help you find just that. Don’t Forget the App Store Reviews Another obvious wealth of knowledge (or not so obvious if you’re just getting back into dating after a divorce) that we all tend to forget about until we’re about to download an app. More often than not, reviews in the app store will be from real users sharing their experience. It’s true that we’re all far more likely to leave a negative review than a positive one so keep that in mind as you’re reading. Regardless, if reviews are mostly one-star and mentioning the same flaw, it might be time to look elsewhere. Likewise, if the reviews are filled with claims of a scam or constant overcharges, run away. While it is rare, scam sites and apps do exist, which is why it’s so important to be diligent. On that note, don’t forget to add your own review to any hookup apps that you try. The more honest, real reviews the app store has, the more helpful it is for others that are searching. This applies to both positive and negative feedback. Are there Specific Attributes you Look for in a Partner? Not only do you have a long list of generic hookup apps to choose from, you’ll also find some interesting niche sites. Plenty of apps focus on helping people of the same faith find each other. While these apps generally don’t market themselves as hookup apps, you can find your fair share of casual relationships there. Likewise, apps that bring together same-sex couples, swingers, BDSM enthusiasts and even people with the same college degree are also out there. Just keep in mind that these apps have fewer people than the more popular options out there. From plus sized dating to sex-forward experimenting, whatever it is that you’re searching for, you’ll find an app for it. You’re not just limited to Tinder. Try them for Yourself So you’ve worked out exactly what it is you’re trying to find. You’ve read some expert reviews and taken a look at the app store. Maybe you’ve even read about how to tell if a site is fake or not. Now it’s time to act. Download one or two of these apps, set up a profile and really put some time into it for at least a few days. Even if you’re on the fence about it, you’re unlikely to find success anywhere with a blank profile and five minutes of use. Take the time to write a quality bio, choose some photos that demonstrate who you are and put it to use. You might be surprised by just how quickly you start to find people you click with. Remember, no crazy sex story ever came from installing an app and leaving it blank. You only get out what you put in. Time for you to get started! SHARE THIS POST