All things in this world operate by a set of rules. In some situation those rules might be a little loose in many instances, but they are always there. Dating is no different, even though the standards vary a lot. Maybe it’s human biology or something cultural, but there are certain things that are universally seen as dating mistakes. Apart from the obvious things (like puking on a dinner date because you drank too much), let’s look at five modern rules of dating (particularly online dating) that you should always follow. 

1. Fortune Favors the Bold

This might be the most problematic rule for you, and that is why we listed it first. Lack of confidence is probably the number one thing that keeps people from pursuing the partner of their dreams, so you have a choice to make. Either you can count yourself among the meek and lonely, or you can take a small risk and try to make something great happen. In this, as in many other things, fortune tends to favor the bold. 

When you are using an online dating forum like, this rule is even more important. No one comes to a dating site for casual conversation or platonic friendship. The fact that they are there means they are looking for a mate, period. The fact that they are talking to you shows that they are (at least somewhat) interested in you, period. Therefore, you should come right out with your intentions, and the other person will probably respect you more as a result.

And if you don’t, there will be someone else who is bolder than you, who would sweep them off their feet (hypothetically of course). So you want to make sure that you are not becoming a pen pal, and you are making your intentions clear right off the bat. This will create a space between both of you to decide whether or not you’d like to pursue what you’ve got going on between each other.

2. Do Something to Break the Tension

One of the biggest roadblocks to a successful relationship is nervous tension. This problem affects both men and women, although some will show it far more than others. When you first meet someone, it is natural to have a “feeling-out” time, where both of you check each other out and attempt to evaluate one another. This might be compared to the way dogs investigate each other on first meeting, except that there probably won’t be any butt-sniffing involved. 

There are lots of ways to break the tension and start talking like casual acquaintances. Humor is probably the best and most time-honored way, as it is an involuntary response. If you can make someone laugh, you can probably make them swoon as well. Just make sure you don’t follow up your joke with something that your date finds highly offensive. After all, laughter only buys you so much leeway. 

3. Don’t Ghost On People

Naturally, there will always be those times when a date doesn’t work out well. Whether it’s an online date or a face-to-face meeting, some people just aren’t compatible. It’s easy to feel disappointed when this happens, and that makes it easy to feel angry with the other person. However, you should try to avoid this kind of attitude, as it is petty and rude.

When things don’t work out, you should always have the decency to tell the other person. Even if you hurt their feelings, it will be much better for them in the long run. What you should never do is just ghost the person, delete their number, and avoid them entirely. Sure, it might be easier, but it’s only rarely that this level of coldness is warranted. Unless they did something truly horrible, you should at least give them the courtesy of a polite goodbye. 

4.Put Your Best Foot Forward

Some people approach a date as if it were a formal occasion, putting on their finest clothes and getting all “fancied up,” as it were. While this isn’t necessarily wrong, it can make you look as if you are trying too hard. So, why is this seen as a negative? One word: Desperation. 

If you act like a desperate, thirsty person, people will assume that you are a low-quality mate. This is a natural assumption because a high-quality mate wouldn’t need to try that hard. Of course, you don’t want to be on the other extreme of the spectrum, either. Showing up in a dirty old bathrobe with a glass of booze in one hand and a cigarette in your mouth would also be a bit of a “faux pas.” What you want to do is put your best foot forward without going to either extreme. 

5. Understand the Line Between Love and Obsession

When talking about dating (especially online dating), we should definitely talk about its dangers. While you aren’t likely to meet a serial killer/psychopath, the possibility always exists. Obviously, you don’t want anything to do with these people, but here is another aspect to consider: You also don’t want to be mistaken for those kinds of people!

When you are really interested in someone, it is natural to be curious about them and their lives. As such, many people will check out social media posts and other bits of your online footprint. This is normal, but only to a certain extent. For instance, if someone likes a post that you made two days ago, that’s probably innocent. If they like a post that you made four months ago, that could be worrisome because it means they went back a long way with their research. So, when you like someone, and you want to find out more about them, make sure you keep it normal and don’t act like a stalker.


Dating is never an easy subject, mostly because there are so many different kinds of people in the world. This is a good thing because it means there is someone out there for everybody, no matter how strange they may be. On the other hand, it does make the world of dating a little more confusing. We hope that we have alleviated some of this confusion, and we also hope that you will return to read more of our work.